Why Women Really DO Need Brothels

If you could, which one would you choose?

Brothels for women.  A novel idea?  An idea our (American) society is ready for?  I think so.   And I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.

The one belief that bothers me above all others, and probably because it true more often that not, is that men compartmentalize their sexual relationships.  I hate this.  But why?  After giving this considerable thought I realized that the reason I hate this so much is because I can’t do the same thing.  I’m incapable of separating my sexual and emotional feelings for a man.  For me, where there is a relationship there is emotion.  So the idea that I could be married to one man, yet go to another for a purely sexual experience is foreign.

But then it ocurred to me recently that perhaps men can do this because they have a long history of paying for sex.  And their experience of paying for sex has made sex a transactional act.  So, they can go to a woman and pay her for sex and have an orgasm and then move on.  Very simple – sort of like buying a six-pack of beer.  You pay the cashier, you get your beer, you consume it, the end.  There’s no relationship with the beer.

Wouldn’t our mindset be different if women could do the same?  For example, say I’m an unattractive, overweight gray-haired woman in my fifties and my husband hasn’t had sex with me for over a year.  What if I could go to a brothel and pay for the most attractive, 25-year old stud to “service” me.  He’d be a mega-hottie.  Think Robert Pattinson face with Taylor Lautner’s New Moon body.  I’d pay him well to just pleasure me and spend time with me.  And his job is solely to make me feel good.  He’s paid well for it and he’s good at it.  Hey, I go away feeling great about myself.  Does it matter that I paid him for it? 

Do you think men walk out of brothels thinking, “Oh, she was only nice to me because I paid her.” No way!  They’re thinking, “I’m a stud!  That was great!  I feel great!”  But, more important, and perhaps the most important thing is this:  They’re thinking they’ve got power.  And they’re right.  Now, that they know that they can pay for affection and sex, they’ll never quite look at another woman the same way. 

Now, are all men like this?  Of course not. 

However, let’s think for a moment about recent news headlines.  John Edwards, Tiger Woods, and Jesse James all ruined their marriages and victimized women because of sex.  And this says something about how their natures.  It reveals how they truly feel about women.  And how they truly feel is that women are there to service their needs.   And why not – there’s a long history of women serving men’s needs.  It almost seems like its the way things are supposed to be. 

Until you really think about it.  It’s absolutely absurd.   You have to really in your mind believe that women are inferior to men to stick to the “men have been doing it for years” argument because men have only been doing it for years because they can.  So why shouldn’t women have the same options?  Of course we should.

The thinking that leads men to victimize women through infidelity and lying is the same thinking that ultimately leads to sexual abuse and violence against women.  And it’s just plain wrong, but, unfortunatly, prevalent.  When women can be viewed through the lens of “serving” men then we are all potential prey.  However, if we can give women the “power” by allowing them to pay for sex, we can change this mindset.  Now women become the aggressors and men the passive purveyors of sexual pleasure.

Radical?  Of course.  But think on it for a while.

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